Y’all. My parents never talked to me about dating in my life. They didn’t give me the talk that is dating but I do remember once in high school when my Facebook profile picture was with a boy, and my dad said, “What is this? Put a nice picture of yourself instead.” That was the extent of our dating talk. They also didn’t give me the sex talk. One time my mom said to me, “There are some plain things in life that you should wait for.” LOL, that’s it.
If there was a “talk” about something, it’s safe to say they didn’t give it to me. In fact, they called Hank my friend that is“special until he put a ring on it. That was THREE full years into dating. It’s probably a more cultural thing not to open up about these things.
Was the difference in race ever an issue between the two of you?
The only time it has been an issue is when either of us has felt like we didn’t fit in and the other person wasn’t empathetic in the moment of discomfort. This has obviously happened to me more than him, but Hank felt this way when we went to India for the first time. He didn’t mind people coming up to him and shaking his hand because that wasn’t creepy, but he was SO OVER the secret selfies, constant stares, and very whispers that are loud.
I’ve had more than one breakdown about never feeling in a box when they see me because of my skin color, or they don’t acknowledge that massive side of me like I fit in because people automatically put me.